Tuesday, August 25, 2009

Goodbye Bobby

Another warrior has been silenced...but his words will live on.

Cystic Fibrosis patients Bobby Womack and Brian McTear were introduced to one another at their West Philly CF clinic and developed an instant camaraderie. They shared the triumphs, trials, and the tribulations that come from living with Cystic Fibrosis and eventually made their friendship public when they started the blog brianandbobbyspeak.com, writing letters back and forth to each other on it since 2005.

I found out this morning that Bobby unexpectedly passed away this past weekend. I only knew him through his writing, but the reality of the situation took my breath away. Bobby and Brian's letters provided a doorway for others to walk through and learn from. Talk of medications and daily routines wove seamlessly into music and family events. Their blog was and is real life at its core. We are lucky to have the opportunity to read it. The final entry from Brian resonates with anyone who has lost someone close to them. Check that out here:

http://www.brianandbobbyspeak.com/?p=454


There is also an article about Bobby's passing on the Philadelphia Weekly website:

http://www.philadelphiaweekly.com/news-and-opinion/phillynow/Bobby-Wolter-RIP-54533562.html

For me, this is a moment for reflection and peace. I've met so many CF warriors over my lifetime. Some battle in front of the world, others walk the path in anonymity. Some are no longer with us and others fight valiantly everyday. Whatever path you choose know this: As long as you love and care for yourself you cannot go wrong. Do the best you can with every day. That is you can ask of yourself and what you should expect of others.

Peaceful thoughts and prayers to Bobby and the family and friends who loved him, especially you Brian. Thank you for sharing your life with the world.

Peaceful Things,

Josh

Sunday, August 16, 2009

She's The Best For Me


I could try to fluff up the story of how I met my wife, but I think it's pretty cut and dry. She came to a party of mine through friends of friends and we started talking. I feigned knowledge of a foreign country by using witty repartee and my knowledge of Disney cartoons, which gave me the opening to ask her out. We went on a date and liked each other. At the time she didn't want to like me, so she tried to avoid/ignore me...but she couldn't resist my charm. We fell in love, got some dogs, and lived happily ever after. Bada-bing, bada boom. Done.

I've found the little reasons we've stayed in love to be far more fun to write about. Sharing everything forever is a rollercoaster ride that has been hard at times, but remains the best thing I have ever done in my life. We bicker over silly stuff like anyone else, but at the end of the day I know we'll be okay because of the little things we do for one another. I can't tell you what I do for her, but here are a few things little things she does for me:
  • Every morning, without fail, she and the dogs climb into bed and wake me up...by staring directly at me. I can't help but laugh because they are all so intense. Cute but intense.
  • She makes a point to tell me the truth. Whether I ask her a leading question or I unwittingly speak out of turn, she is there to give me the feedback I need which always makes me a better person.
  • She reminds me to write "thank you" cards because sometimes snail mail says more than a hand shake or nice words ever could.
  • She dances with me in the living room.
  • She is not afraid of our future. She says bring it on.
  • She is helping me learn to be brave again.
  • When we first started dating we jokingly came up with terrible pet names that we'd never imagine calling someone in public. She decided to call me "Pooky". The name has stuck and transformed into hybrids: Pookalicious, Pook Masta J, etc...I smile every time she says my nickname.
  • We both still say "I missed you today." That's code for "I love you."
Perhaps the greatest thing she does is just being there. I still get that feeling when I look at my wife. You know...the one with the butterflies and the Wayne's World "Dream Weaver" sequence. When we are married for 50 years, I bet dollars to donuts I'll still feel the same way. Love you always Carly.

Peaceful Things,

Josh

P.S. - The writer's block ain't gone, but I'm working on it. :-)



Thursday, August 6, 2009

Writer's Block











You know when the word you want to say is on the tip of your tongue but you can't think of it, much less say it, if your life was dependent on it? That is how I feel after weeks of mind-numbing blankness.

When I write, it's as if I'm putting together a jigsaw puzzle. I dump all the pieces out onto the table and start flipping them over, separating the edge pieces on the side. Lately a few of those pieces must have tumbled way underneath the couch of my mind. Until I find them I cannot continue with my writing puzzle.

It's times like this I wish I could be as relaxed as my dogs are. Yes, they get excited or stressed at times, but they have the ability to change gears instantly. Perhaps it's because their little puppy brains do not know any other way to be. If I could control my thought process that way, it would be wonderful tool. Maybe if I slept on the couch or chased rabbits in the backyard with them for the day. Hmmm....

It will get better (God, I hope it gets better.) Think creative thoughts for me and if you have a suggestion, question, please fire away!

Peaceful Things,

Josh

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